Energy Zappers Beware! Dealing with negative people.

Have you ever started your day feeling as everything is on your side?

The sun is shining through your bedroom window just right as it hits your glass of water on your bedside which is half full giving the illumination of a rainbow.

You then bounce out of bed, turn on your radio, and there is your all time favorite song you haven’t heard in years. Then proceeding to the shower you catch yourself singing and dancing and as the water trickles down your body in a massaging fashion.

After getting dressed you stop for a cup of coffee at Starbucks and they are having a free giveaway on their new coffee flavor and you get a free cup that morning.  You walk away with a glow and that warm fuzzy feeling inside, as if you won lotto.

Your drive to work is a breeze, no traffic perfect temperature,  enjoying the fresh air as your hair blows ever so gently in the wind. The smell of fresh cuts grass invigorates you as you listen to the birds in the air as if it was music to your ears.

Everything was going great… WAS going great… and the BAM! You are hit with an energy zapper.

What is an energy zapper? These are a few signs to look for to know you are in the presence of an energy zapper:  

  • Just being in this person’s presence is enough to make you feel drained and exhausted.
  • A simple text or email, can shift your mood for the rest of the day
  • They are consuming your thoughts and time, and not in a good way
  • An energy zapper tends to complain all the time
  • They have very little positive contribution to any conversation
  • They think the world is against them, and gravitate toward the victim mode
  • Intrude into your life breaking through personal boundaries
  • Criticize everyone for everything they do
  • Unable to take responsibility for their own problems, and of course it is everyone’s else’s fault.
  • Do you feel exhausted and drained when they are done, like you have not slept in days?

How do you protect yourself? 

  • Limit your time and interaction with this person.
  • Be prepared to cut the conversation short when needed
  • Be aware and detach yourself from their emotions. Learn to let it roll off your shoulders.
  • Do not try to rescue or fix them. It is not your responsibility to save them from their problems.
  • Limit eye contact. Eye contact welcomes the energy of the other party.
  • Avoid close spaces, and keep yourself at a distance so you can build a barrier of your own energy which it will be less likely to penetrate.
  • If they begin to discuss something you are uncomfortable with, it is important to voice this with them.
  • Stand up for yourself and your boundaries, If you don’t respect your boundaries who will?

Good luck, and keep up your positive vibes!

Amanda Scocozzo, C.P.C.

(347) 913-LIFE (5433)

www.empowerlifecoach.com

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